Self Care Girl Likes....

Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive.  And then go and do that.  Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.  ~Attributed to Howard Thurman

Self Care Girl Likes:   People who follow their passions.


When our only son decided to drop out of college (3 classes shy of his AA) we were really disappointed.    

He is an intelligent kid, academically gifted, and so very capable.   We were not so concerned about what professional field he should pursue, we just wanted him to get a degree.   A degree would lead to a respectable career.  A respectable career would help him achieve independence, and Mom and Dad could then sleep at night knowing that their parental duty to launch a productive citizen into society had been successfully fulfilled.

Our son now plays bass full time in a country rock band.  


We spent last weekend in Boise, a quick visit to see him play at a bar there.  We were blown away by two things.   His good bass-playing skills have gotten even better (the new band is very good!)...and he had a lump on his neck the size of a gumball.  

So the better part of this last week was spent chasing down a cause for this lump.   They took blood, did an ultrasound, scheduled him to see a specialist.   We googled the possibilities (a little knowledge is power...and dangerous) and we became increasingly concerned that he had all the symptoms of Hodgkins Lymphoma.     Suffice to say, this really was one of the worst weeks of our lives.

We were told on Thursday that he has an infection in his lymph gland - looks like he had a bout of mono recently.  They want to see if a round of antibiotics will cure it.   The specialist really believes it isn't cancer.  

My blood pressure is lower.  I slept better the last two nights.  I am getting ready to re-book my business trip to Australia (I was supposed to leave last Wednesday for 3 months).    But most important, I have a new perspective on my son's career choice.   

Life is fragile and short.  Don't waste it.   Find a way to make a living doing what you love to do.   Just do it.


My son plays bass in a country rock band.  It took a lot of courage for him to stand up to us and choose his own path.  I am so glad he did that.  Now is the best time for him to pursue his dreams- he is young and he is fostering his passion.   I have never seen him happier and I couldn't be more proud.