31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #15 & 16: Giving & Receiving

Tip #15:  Giving....as in giving away some of the stuff that is cluttering up your spaces and your life is a great thing to do this time of year.  Start by clearing a drawer or cupboard and see if you don't feel heaps lighter immediately.

• Think about first removing duplicates.  How many can openers, pairs of scissors, nail clippers, tweezers, rain coats, etc...do you really need?   Sometimes having one of an item is best.  Having one of an item, and a specific location for that item increases its value to you and the likelihood of not losing it.
• Remove any item that you haven't worn or used in a year.
• If at all possible leave empty spaces - an empty area of a drawer or an empty shelf conveys openness to receive, it is also aesthetically pleasing.
• GIVE away your excess stuff to friends, family and charity.
• After the holiday...repeat!  Don't bring anything new into your home without removing something else.

Tip #16: Receiving....as in receiving things gracefully

• Say thank you.
• If it is beautiful, say so.
• If it is something you always wanted, say so.
• If it is not beautiful-or not something you ever wanted- say thank you and add how happy you feel that the giver thought of you.
• If it is too much, accept it graciously if received in public, speak to the giver privately afterward if you are concerned.   
• If you have received a gift and don't have one to reciprocate, say thank you.  Do not make an apology or excuse for not having a gift, or a promise to deliver a gift in the future.  Do not make the giver feel uncomfortable in any way.  If you want to, reciprocate at a later date. You are not obligated to do this...and please do not feel you need to match with a gift of the same  value, especially if you cannot afford it.  
• Consider always the generosity and thoughtfulness of the giver and always behave with gratitude...that is the true key to being a gracious receiver.

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl
Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist