Tuesday, July 27, 2010

10 Tips For A Happy Marriage

"My husband tells me quite regularly that he is my biggest fan. I tell him often, "I adore you." There is so much power in words. You need to celebrate regularly the passion in your marriage." - Donna Krech
I am by no means an expert on this subject, but from my own experience, these are some of the important ingredients to a happy marriage.

1) Choose the right partner. This is someone who shares your interests, supports your dreams, overlooks your faults and cares about your happiness.  (Don't marry a frog hoping that he will become a prince - that is a fairy tale!)

2) Be the right partner. (See the description above.)  Give 150%.

3) Act lovingly, especially at those moments when you aren’t feeling it.

4) Apologize when you are wrong. Forgive- don’t carry grudges.

5) Concede that you don’t always have to agree. The phrase “you might be right” is a good one to apply to those situations. 

6) Avoid situations that cause marital stress (home improvements), and show greater tolerance in those stressful situations  (family gatherings) that cannot be avoided.

7) Ask for what you need. Don’t expect your spouse to get your hints or read your mind.

8) Have regular date nights. These do not have to be expensive – a board game and finger foods, a nightly walk after dinner, or a picnic in a local park will do- the point is to have one on one alone time.

9) Give space when it is needed. Ask for space when you need it.

10) Get on the same page with your money. Money issues are the leading cause of marital strife. Develop a strategy for managing your money together and commit to it. Dave Ramsey.com is a great resource for this.

Happy 9th Anniversary to my best friend, Simon. I love you!


My Wife Hates Me said...

This is a great list. I especially love #2 because so darned often we forget to be the partner that we wish we had.

It tends to always go back to the golden rule somehow, but in this case it's ultra important.

Thanks for a great article. I've just bookmarked your blog!

Self Care Girl said...

Thanks for stopping by, and for bookmarking my blog!

(How can your wife possibly hate you? You sound like you get this relationship thing...)