February Update: 25 Things I want to Do in 2013

My February Status on the goals and objectives I set for myself for 2013:   (Updates in blue!)

1. Run a 5k
2. Take a Tropical Holiday:         Planning anniversary trip to Kauai in July
3. Hike to Lake Annette and camp
4. Go Kayaking
5. Lose 50lbs:      Down 18lbs since beginning of year, so 32lbs to go!
6. Get 10,000 fans on Self Care Girl:     4290 fans, so 5710 to go
7. Simplify everything I can:      I have been actively cleaning out cupboards and reducing.   I think this is a good start to simplifying- removing the unnecessary, so the necessary can speak.
8. Make a Sourdough starter and bake our bread, instead of buy:         My excuse is that I have not been able to find ORGANIC grapes to make the starter.   Looking for alternative recipe.
9. Continue to maintain Debt Free lifestyle (Focus on mortgage pay down):    We have been looking at homes and considering a move which would impact our pay down.   I have to weigh having a nice, new home with retiring early. 
10. Grow an herb garden
11. Go Sailing
12. Sew something
13. Use my Art Supplies
14. Begin writing book
15. Be the most amazing Matron of Honor EVER:         Have committed to spending one weekend a month focused on the bride
16. Go at least 4 times to see Jake's band play
17. Remove the Mercury from my mouth:           Dental appt March 13.
18. Switch to healthier household cleaners:          Using a lot of white vinegar lately and swapped out my laundry and dish soaps with healthier brands.   Next step is to just toss out all those evil, unhealthy products lurking in my broom closet.
19. Read 12 Books (1 per month):  Almost complete with The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel and re-reading the book Switch (How to Change when Change is Difficult)

 

20. Replace my old furniture:  New bedroom set, ottoman and sofa.

      

             

21. Remodel the Rental Property:             Contractor starts Monday, Feb 11, will be complete and ready for renting on March 1.
22. Re-read Decision Modeling Text Book:         Started this week.   Was actually asked to sit in on a meeting where this method would benefit.  So motivated to read more.
23. Eat Better - Learn more about (and incorporate) more Raw and Fermented foods:  Have increased sour kraut and more pickled vegetables.    
24. Take Weekend Away with My Sister
25. Unplug on Sundays:  So far so good!

5 Ways to Adopt a "Snail's Pace"

One objective of simplifying your life is to free up time and energy so you can focus these on more important things. Simplifying does not necessarily equate to slowing down your life.  Slowing down is something that must be done as consciously as weeding out the unnecessary stuff. 

Here are 5 Good Suggestions to help you slow down:

1) Sit down for meals.    I too am guilty of occasionally eating over the sink-or worse - in the light cast by an open refrigerator door.   This not good for your soul.    Scarfing down food is NOT good for your body.   Take a slower approach.  Set the table.  Chew your food.  Enjoy the flavors.

2) Modify your Morning Routine so you aren't rushing out the door.   Get up 15 minutes earlier and just sit with a hot beverage and your happy thoughts.   Organize as much of the daily preparations as you can the night before- clothes, lunch, breakfast etc.

3) Drive the Speed Limit.   You'll get better gas mileage and you will be least likely to have an accident.   Make zen-like focus your habit when you are in the car.   There is no more important place to be fully present!  Give yourself plenty of time to get there.   If by chance you are late...make a courtesy call your solution; not speed!

4) Take Breaks.   You should not sit at your desk for longer than an hour at a time.   Set your calendar to send you notices each hour to take a break.   Use this time to stretch, use the bathroom, refill your beverage, take a little walk, or simply refocus your eyes.

5) Leave yourself sticky note reminders to slow down.   A few key places to stick these:  on your steering wheel; in a calendar notice (so it pops up on your computer screen); on the bathroom mirror; on the fridge

Let Me Eat Cake

This brilliant picture is by Kelli Nina Perkins.  http://ephemeralalchemy.blogspot.com/2011/07/let-me-eat-cake.html

Woke up early this morning, first day of 2013.

I made myself a cup of coffee and reached into the fridge for a slice of leftover Egg Nog & Rum Bundt cake.  (Breakfast of Champions...)

"Hold it!" My annoying, meddling, do-gooder side interrupted as I sunk my teeth into the cake.
"What?!" I mumbled back...mouth full...innocent...but clearly, BUSTED!
 "Its the first day of a new year!" Do-gooder exclaimed in disbelief
"Uh-huh" I chewed a little and gulped...so guilty. 
"So...how is this year going to be different from every other year?"
I stopped chewing..stared at the cake...and I realized the truth of the matter "It's not."

I fully expect that this year will be exactly like every other year since I cognitively started tracking my years, and change, and bad habits.

Miraculously, over the past few decades, I have managed to improve more than decline...just maybe not always in ways that I envisioned.

This year will not be any different.    I will struggle with my diet and won't want to exercise.  My metabolism will continue to slow as I age.   I will continue to struggle with my weight.    I will incorporate some very good things and I will eliminate some bad things too.   I will try.   I will have set -backs.  I will have successes. I will try again. 

When it is all said and done...I will still -occasionally- want cake. 

One thing is for certain:   I really don't want 2013 to be all about whether or not I should have my cake and eat it too.  (Of course I should!)

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl

Things I want to do in the 2013

Here is my to-do list of 25 Things I want to accomplish in the new year. 

Research shows we are 80% more likely to reach our goals if we write them down.   Research also shows that we are more successful if we focus on one clear goal at a time. (I will have to keep this in mind). 

I will provide monthly status on my progress...

1. Run a 5k
2. Take a Tropical Holiday
3. Hike to Lake Annette and camp
4. Go Kayaking
5. Lose 50lbs
6. Get 10,000 fans on Self Care Girl
7. Simplify everything I can
8. Make a Sourdough starter and bake our bread, instead of buy
9. Continue to maintain Debt Free lifestyle (Focus on mortgage pay down)
10. Grow an herb garden
11. Go Sailing
12. Sew something
13. Use my Art Supplies
14. Begin writing book
15. Be the most amazing Matron of Honor EVER
16. Go at least 4 times to see Jake's band play
17. Remove the Mercury from my mouth
18. Switch to healthier household cleaners
19. Read 12 Books (1 per month)
20. Replace my old furniture.
21. Remodel the Rental Property
22. Re-read Decision Modeling Text Book
23. Eat Better - Learn more about (and incorporate) more Raw and Fermented foods
24. Take Weekend Away with My Sister
25. Unplug on Sundays

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #15 & 16: Giving & Receiving

Tip #15:  Giving....as in giving away some of the stuff that is cluttering up your spaces and your life is a great thing to do this time of year.  Start by clearing a drawer or cupboard and see if you don't feel heaps lighter immediately.

• Think about first removing duplicates.  How many can openers, pairs of scissors, nail clippers, tweezers, rain coats, etc...do you really need?   Sometimes having one of an item is best.  Having one of an item, and a specific location for that item increases its value to you and the likelihood of not losing it.
• Remove any item that you haven't worn or used in a year.
• If at all possible leave empty spaces - an empty area of a drawer or an empty shelf conveys openness to receive, it is also aesthetically pleasing.
• GIVE away your excess stuff to friends, family and charity.
• After the holiday...repeat!  Don't bring anything new into your home without removing something else.

Tip #16: Receiving....as in receiving things gracefully

• Say thank you.
• If it is beautiful, say so.
• If it is something you always wanted, say so.
• If it is not beautiful-or not something you ever wanted- say thank you and add how happy you feel that the giver thought of you.
• If it is too much, accept it graciously if received in public, speak to the giver privately afterward if you are concerned.   
• If you have received a gift and don't have one to reciprocate, say thank you.  Do not make an apology or excuse for not having a gift, or a promise to deliver a gift in the future.  Do not make the giver feel uncomfortable in any way.  If you want to, reciprocate at a later date. You are not obligated to do this...and please do not feel you need to match with a gift of the same  value, especially if you cannot afford it.  
• Consider always the generosity and thoughtfulness of the giver and always behave with gratitude...that is the true key to being a gracious receiver.

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl
Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #14: Strive for Some Holiday Imperfection!

One of the best trees I ever had in my home was decorated heavily in low places with clusters of frosted dinosaur gingerbread cookies...as the joyful season progressed, many of the cookies lost legs and tails, or completely disappeared -extinct, but for only a trace of crumbs.

This holiday strive for fabulous memories....not perfection....just let go, and let it happen!

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #13: Take Some Time To Enjoy the Holiday Preparations

Holidays take a lot of preparation.  If you are one of the holiday organizers for your family, you know how stressful this time of year is...especially because nothing else in life really stops to allow for you to engage fully in those preparations;  everything has to happen in addition to your normal routines and obligations.

Taking some time for yourself right now...a day off from work...or trade an afternoon or two of child care with a friend, so you can engage fully and enjoy those preparations-like shopping, or decorating-rather than just rushing to get the done.

Guard against trying to accomplish too much during one of these sessions.  Choose one or two tasks that can be reasonably accomplished in your allotted time frame.   These sessions are intended to be fun and rejuvenating, not stressful!

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #12: It Is Ok For You To Have Everything You Want

I am the first to admit that I am a little bit spoiled rotten.

It wasn't always like this.   I used to just dream about being spoiled rotten.  

I wanted to travel, and to have a nice home, and a nice car, and a nice husband...a garden, a good paying career, a happy healthy child, a good computer, to lose weight, a Master's degree, to fly business class, a closet full of nice clothes and a cat.

My life completely changed when I realized a few very important things:

• You can have anything you are willing to focus on and work for (in fact it is the best way to get what you want- when you work for something you want you have time to consider if it is really what you want...and you appreciate it more because you worked for it.)
• You don't have to settle for less than you want
• If you surround yourself with people who do what you want to do, and have what you want to have, not only will they show you its possible to do it and have it, but they might also show you how!
• Reconsider any relationships you have with people who don't believe in you, your dreams or your ability or right to have what you want (especially when you are willing to work for it or earn it)
• Recognize that sometimes you do have to make a choice between two things you want (in my case...the nice husband or the cat, LOL!)

 I am proud to say that I have everything I want...except for the cat.  

 Make your list, and then choose one thing on it to aim for in the new year.  

Take Good Care
Self Care Girl
Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist

 

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #11: Engage in Some Holiday Hugging

“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” - Virginia Satir

Hugs are a good thing throughout the year, but I think you simply cannot beat the feeling of a warm hug during the festive, chilly Winter Holiday season.

Have you hugged your child today? Your spouse? A friend? Hugging is good self care, and it also benefits the person you hug!

Why hug?

• Hugs (and human touch) enhance our feelings of security and well-being
• Hugs reinforce our connections to each other.
• Hugs tell people that you love them
• Hugs tell people you want them close to you.
• Hugs are warm.
• Hugs are free.

Some Dos and a Don’t of Giving and Receiving Hugs:

DO: Aim for 4, but know that the more hugs you get (and give) the better
DO: Hug first and let go last!
DO: Hug often – you can give one hug to four people or 4 hugs to one person (it all counts!)
DON’T: Be pushy (or creepy) in your hugging- people have different comfort levels with being touched. Always ask first if you don’t know someone well enough.  

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl
Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist

 
***Hug O' War is from Shel Silverstein.

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #10: Say YES to Self Care!

"Don't get so caught up in the daily grind that you never find any time to enjoy yourself."

 

I am writing this after a very hectic weekend.   I was so busy bustling about trying to get things done, the thought of practicing self care didn’t occur to me until I plopped down on the couch at the end of the day – exhausted- and began to sort through my mental to-do and done lists.  Some things got done...some things didn’t ....and unfortunately self care didn’t.  

I had a good think about this after kicking myself for not making myself a priority.   And then I decided that step one should be to not kick myself.

Some days are like this.     It’s okay.  The important thing is to recognize how important self care is and commit to do better the next day.  

After forgiving myself for being human, I decided to develop a list of quick, small tasks I could use in the future to get my little self care fix in when time is of the essence:

1) Be gentle with yourself (no kicking or beating yourself up- be loving!)

2)  Make a list like this for yourself (What little things rejuvenate you?)

3) Create a "done" list in your head or on paper - give yourself credit for what you have accomplished!

4) Take 10 deep breaths

5) Do only what needs to be done...and nothing more.  (I like to clean house before I go to bed, but I really needed to just go to bed)

6) Have a piece of chocolate, a cookie or some little treat.

7) Stop and get yourself something to drink...refocus your eyes and stretch

8) Grab some lotion and massage your hands, arms...feet, legs. 

9) Name 5 things you are thankful for

10) Ask for help.

 Despite my concerns about getting everything done before our vacation on Wednesday, I did manage to stop scurrying about and accepted a movie date with Mr SC last night.      Ironically the movie was set in London (our holiday destination) and it was really nice way to whet our appetite for our upcoming trip!    You never know what kind of joy a little break from the holiday hustle and bustle may provide you.   Be sure to say YES to the self care!

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl
Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #9: Winter Skin Care

Moving from crisp cool outdoors to a variety of indoor climates can play havoc with our skin.  Here are a few tips for fighting the Wintertime effects:

• Hydrate - Drink plenty of water and reduce your soda and caffeine intake.  Remember that what you put in your body is as important as what you put on it!
• Avoid the temptation to take long hot showers.  Hot water dries the skin more than warm water does.   A good tip is shower at night before you go to bed.  You will sleep better and you are less likely to leave a warm shower and go straight out into cold air. 
• Rinse your face with cool water and use mild cleanser to avoid drying. 
• Apply moisturizer immediately after you get out of shower when you pores are open and your skin is most receptive to moisture
• Use a humidifier to keep the air in your home moist.  Alternatively, placing pots of water in front of heating vents works too!
• Exfoliate - removing dry, dead skin also makes your skin more receptive to moisturizer
• Wear sunscreen on your face.  Harmful UV rays also exist in the summertime and reflection off of snow can be especially brilliant 
• Avoid aggravating your skin with thick materials like wool. 
• Protect you lips with a good balm   
• You can find a multitude of easy homemade recipes for your skin under this Self Care Girl  August 2012 link.   These are 2-3 ingredient recipes using ingredients most of us have in our cupboards. 

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #8: Go Walking In A Winter Wonderland

"Sleigh bells ring, are you listening?  In the lane the snow is glistening.  A beautiful sight, we're happy tonight, walking in a winter wonderland..." Richard B. Smith, Walking in a Winter Wonderland

Photo was taken by Jonas Aarre Sommarset:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sanjoy87/3071050549/

Walking in the wintertime may be something you are tempted to resist.  The weather outside is frightful, after all, and why would you want to go outside and freeze when you can stay inside on the couch,  toasty warm in front of the fire, with a cup of cocoa?

Ah....I know....it sounds so cozy...and inviting...and I have almost talked myself into it.....

However, scientific evidence supports that walking in a winter wonderland can also be quite delightful for your health.

• It lifts your spirits 
• Regular doses of winter sunlight helps to ease seasonal depression.  
• The air is fresher and more exhilarating
• You will feel energized
• It puts healthy color in your cheeks
• The serenity of snowy scenes about you creates inner peace.

Be sure to dress well before you leave the house.

• Layers are best.  
• Wear a hat (body heat leaves through your head!)  
• Choose mittens instead of gloves (increased body heat from your fingers being together)
• Synthetic or Wool socks will keep your feet dryer
• Wear boots with good traction 
• Put on a dab of lip balm to protect your lips.
• Carry a cell phone or take someone you love along 

Be safe and warm!

Self Care Girl
Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist

31 Days of 'Elf Care, Tip #7: Peppermint is an 'Elf Care Staple

Peppermint is a popular ingredient and fragrance during the holiday season.   But did you know that it is a potent plant which boasts a multitude of beneficial properties that can keep YOU healthy and happy?

Regular consumption - a daily cup of peppermint tea (not candy canes, sorry!) has been shown to provide the following benefits:

• Promotes digestion (helps alleviate that awful feeling of overindulgence!)
• Relieves constipation and diarrhea
• Soothes Irritable Bowel Syndrome
• Reduces heartburn
• Induces relaxation
• Controls mild asthma
• Calms menstrual cramps
• Alleviates muscle pain and stiffness 
• Fights insomnia
• Strengthens the immune system
• Antimicrobial, Antiviral, Antiseptic, Antifungal
• Relieves skin rashes
• Relieves migraines
• Boosts mental power
• Controls herpes simplex
• Reduces morning sickness
• Suppresses appetite
• Controls bad breath
• Improves mental sharpness
• Increases physical endurance

Seek out high quality tea.   I am a big fan of the Traditional Medicinals Organic brand you can find this at health food stores and some of your better grocery stores  - Any good quality, non-gmo brand will do though!

For more information on the properties of Peppermint that make it so beneficial, I recommend this link: http://www.buzzle.com/articles/peppermint-tea-benefits.html

 

Take Good Care 

Self Care Girl

Holiday 'Elf Care Specialist

31 Days of 'Elf Care: Tip #6 Give From Your Heart!

Holidays can be especially stressful when money is short.   

My best advice for anyone experiencing financial difficulties- whether it’s the holidays or not- is to focus on your basic needs first.    For most of us, the foremost needs are:  1) a roof over your head, 2) food to eat, and 3) heat/electricity.    There is something about outlining and focusing on this reduced list of priorities that calmed me when I was barely making ends meet several years ago.   Once you meet these, then focus on other important things like: any medications you need, a way for people to contact you (you don’t have to have your own phone!) and Transportation.    Look at your own personal needs and prioritize what works best for you.    Then address one thing at a time starting at the highest priority. 

It is my firm belief that any gifts we give to others should be from the heart.   The good thing about this is that giving from your heart is the most valuable type of giving and in most cases it can be the least expensive too!  The worst thing you can do when you are struggling with finances is make the matter worse by blowing money you don’t have on gifts that others don’t need out of obligation or pride or just plain festive zeal.     We don’t want the post holiday season to be all about dealing with the stress of charge card debt and regrets!    

Here is a list of 10 free- or almost free- ways to give: 

1. Offer your time via a handmade coupon:  Weeding, childcare, window washing, housecleaning, errand running.  (Be sure to follow through!)
2. Send a letter telling the person what they mean to you
3. Bake a batch of cookies or candies (this is especially good for young adults who have moved out of the house!)  Or use your craftiness and make gifts.   If you like to crochet, knit, sew, scrapbook, design web pages, etc... Pull out your scraps and get crafting!    One of my favourite things is crocheted wash cloths- they are durable, and I know that my mom thought of me when she made them! 
4. Pass down that family heirloom
5. Put together a photo album documenting a personal history.   My sister compiled pictures chronologically for me from my infancy through the birth of my son.   It was one of the best presents EVER!
6. Put together a file of favourite music for your Sweetie! 
7. Focus heavily on your reasons for the season- especially if you have children- they need to experience the traditions and special family time fully with you.    Not spending money when you don’t have it is also an important –albeit difficult-example to teach your kids. 
8. Friends of ours started a tradition when their kids were small.  They wrap holiday books to be opened and read at bedtime each night from Dec 1 to Christmas Eve.  Initially they used some library books to fill the gap (wrap them in different paper so you can return them before they become due!).   They also shopped at thrift stores throughout the year to compile this treasure cheaply.    At the end of the holiday, these books are put away and reused the next year.   (The kids are more interested in the surprise of opening the books and the time spent reading together- not so concerned that these were the same books as the year before!)
9. My mother used to wrap everything individually.   Understand that much of the joy for kids at Christmas comes with the unwrapping.   A small quantity of inexpensive items like crayons, toy cars, bubbles, a large candy bar, etc...Can bring as much joy as one large expensive gift.    I once wrapped a box of Pop Tarts- my son loved them, but it wasn’t something I would normally buy for him.   So for Christmas it was a real treat!
10. Give away something you don’t use anymore.   Or sell it on Craigslist and use the money to buy a gift.   I bet there are many things in your home that you don’t use, which have value.  Clear it out!

Whatever you do, put your heart into it and it will be okay!  I promise!

Take Good Care!
Self Care Girl
'Elf Care Specialist